I know. It has been awhile. It has been hard for me to find the moxie to write, but here I am!
Filed for divorce the second time, moved out (without my daughter, which has been absolutely heartbreaking), and got an amazing job I’m actually good at and doesn’t make me want to curl up in a ball and cry in the mornings.
I’ve been staying with my best friend and boyfriend. I have a schedule and go back and forth. Finding a place right now is insane, and Even with a decent full time job, rent is going to be a struggle. Plus, basics like food cost a lot more when you don’t have your own space to store/cook, so saving money has been difficult. Plus, I was impulse shopping a little too much. So, now I’ve buckled down with a budget. Still probably will be a month or two before I am able to get my own place, though.
My mental health is doing okay and my physical health is still all over the place, but the immense amount of guilt and shame I feel over leaving without my daughter is soul crushing. Every day I have to remind myself that I wasn’t being a good mom when I was there because of my mental and physical health bogging me down. I needed to leave to get back on my feet so I can be a good mom. I go spend the day with her Sundays when I have off and Wednesdays (or any Monday, Tuesday, or Thursday) that I work remotely. It isn’t enough for me and it takes a lot of thought challenging to not let those feelings lead me somewhere I don’t want to be.
I work for Big Brothers Big Sisters of Racine and Kenosha now. I’ve been there since July and it is an intense job, but I really enjoy it and I think I’m good at it. It definitely plays to my strengths. I also only have one co-worker, who is also my boss and I really enjoy working with her, plus she understands my mental health stuff and has been amazing being supportive and flexible with me. I haven’t called in sick and it has been almost 2 months. It is insane. New record for me! I did have to take half a sick day with half a remote day, but it was for a doctor’s appointment. Plus, I’ve gotten to go to conferences and take some pretty interesting classes. Soon I will be posting about why I am so happy to be working for this organization, but I’m not going to go into it today.
Throwing a bunch of pictures in for updates! I’m going to try to actually do this blog thing right. Plus, might do more tiktoks soon!